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Although we usually pine for more more more, sometimes you've got to be thankful of what you have in life and in your relationship. I've realised this recently be noticing the new normal and how comfortable my wife now is being in charge. Readers of some duration to this blog will observe that 6 months ago I wasn't posting and our wife led marriage was stuck in a lull. I didn't know if my wife was every really going to embrace it. I was often trying to think about what could get her more interested but she seemed to be overwhelmed by everyday life. Now she has fully taken charge and really enjoys it. This morning she told me to follow her to the toilet for my golden goodness. I took me place on my knees before her. She used to hold the glass as she sat on the toiled but she recently decided that I should hold it. I love the anticipation of getting down on my needs before her and watching her beautiful pussy become visible before me. I love to hold the glass as he...

I had a little accident. Normally when I use her hollow dildo I can't feel a thing and don't get any stimulation at all. However the other night I got so turned on before she had me strap it on that I struggled to fit into it. There was more internal friction than normal and I exploded soon after entering her with it. She told me she was very disappointed with me and penalised me to a full week without climax.

My wife and I have both been down with illness the last few weeks. I've also be working harder and longer hours than ever. (if only the girls in the office new their serious business like manager is sitting at his desk in his formal suit with a nice pair of lace panties underneath!) Sometimes I wonder about things like that. My wife and I don't consider ourselves too unusual. I wonder how many people I know who may secretly have unusual fetishes that most people would never ever guess. Despite my wife being sick and having a period she has wanted sex a couple of times the last few weeks, much to my pleasant surprise. She has also had me file and polish her toenails. As soon as she stops taking any medication and gets back to a normal, healthy diet I'm sure I'll have to taste some more of her "golden goodness" I love my wife.

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When my wife first got the idea of having me drink her pee I thought it would be something we'd try once or twice and then get bored of it. What surprised me is how much she seems to be enjoying it. There are two ways she has me do it. She told me to leave a glass in the bathroom for her to use. Every other day she calls me into the toilet right after she has emptied herself. She points to a full glass on this sink which I take in my hand and drop to my knees before her, as she remains on the toilet. Looking into her eyes I drink every last drop as she sits there smiling/grinning at me. I did NOT expect her to like it this much. The thrill for me is that she enjoys it so much. It is a real turn on. Sometimes she slides open the shower door and tells me to get on my knees (both of us naked). I then have to cup it in my hands and drink it up. To make sure I drink it all she'll hold back the stream in between my handfuls. She has pee'd directly into my mouth but she prefers me...

Below is a comment I left for whatevershesays http://shestheboss.blogspot.com/ on his post "Interesting Comments" I thought it was worth posting here: ========================== Dear whatevershesays, I agree fully with you. I'm not convinced that the first comment is not just fantasy material. However, even if it is 100% true, and works well for the lady (you don't usually see ladies write like that), it doesn't mean it works well for your and anybody else. Your point about some sort acknowledgement from your wife is valid in my opinion. Although there may be husbands happy with no acknowledgement I haven't come across believable examples. A relationship is a two way thing. If I don't get any acknowledgement I get less joy from my submission. Yes you can argue that it isn't pure submission if you "require" something from your wife, but hey, that's just how I've noticed things work with me. Maybe I'll change and be happy without he...

My mother in law has been visiting for the last two weeks. This is the first time she's seen me be extra helpful to my wife as or FLR is now more obvious. As my wife's sitting by her computer I'll kneel beside her chair and ask her what else she wants help with. I've been helping my wife a lot On this visit my mother in law keeps commenting privately to my wife about what a good husband I now am. She said to her yesterday: "He's such a good husband to you. He comes home from work tired and you boss him about all evening." My wife had a twinkle in her eye telling me this.

As I continued the nightly and morning footrubs I paid better and better attention to taking care of her. A big turning point for me was reading a post by a lady (byrdie) on the She-makes-the-rules.com website where she said something along the lines of: make a list of all the things that cause any type of stress or discomfort to your wife. Ignore the ones that are outside of your control (weather?) and then make taking care of the others your priority list. This I did. My wife noticed that as I was giving her the morning and nightly foot rubs (and kisses), and reminding her she's the boss that my attitude and behaviour improved dramatically. I genuinely started paying better attention to her in all things and doing everything I could to help. We both noticed we felt much happier and closer to each other. Eventually I decided she was happy enough with how things were going to introduce the she-makes-the-rules.com website to her. A few years ago I made the mistake of asking her to r...

I have some big news. Where do I start? I guess I should have a recap on where we are to date. My wife and I met through vanilla dating 7 years ago. Although I can remember submissive thoughts from my early teens, I'd never discussed them with any partner. I knew she was the one for me and proposed after 3 months. Because I felt so close to her I was able to soon open up about my submissive fantasies in the bedroom. We occasionally indulged but it certainly wasn't an acknowledge female led relationship. I started reading more online and wasn't sure if I wanted more than just bedroom games. I didn't like the idea of having to do more household chores etc and be at her beck and call. So we occasional played with her being the boss in bed. Eventually I plucked up the courage to order Around Her Finger - The New Brides Guide To Training Her Husband. I read it to her aloud in bed, she liked it and agreed to a week of bootcamp. We both enjoyed it and decided it have a female...

My birdlocked device won't fit on and I'm reluctant to buy another device so I've been working on the honor system. The obvious risk is that I can't hold myself back, I end up relieving myself and then take my attention off my wife. Recently it's been working pretty well. On only one occasion I was so on edge for 4 days with constant stimulation that I was feeling quite a bit of pain/discomfort in my testes. I'd be walking around at work and able to feel the pain. This was distracting and as I have a job with a lot of responsibility and people reporting to me I didn't want to start being distracted too much during my work day. I relieved myself but promised myself beforehand that I wouldn't slack off when I got home. Later that evening I did notice I wasn't jumping to help as quickly but did make a conscious effort to be helpful. So far I'm happy with the honor system. Maybe one day my wife will want to introduce a device and if so I'm sure I...

For those not familiar with it, Think and Grow Rich is one of the greatest success books of all time. Andrew Carnegie asked Napoleon Hill to study the most successful people of their time and document what it took to be successful in life. Carnegie was easily able to arrange him interviews with the most successful people of their era. Below is a short excerpt from one chapter (click the link below to read the full chapter). It's very interesting to see this in an old, mainstream success manual. (if you click on the link at the bottom he explains in a lot of detail about harnessing mens sexual energy) =============================================================== Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman! The hunter who excelled during prehistoric days, before the dawn of civilization, did so, because of his desire to appear great in the eyes of woman. Man's nature has not changed in this respect. The "hunter" of today brings home no skins of w...

I don't want this blog to become solely about intimate activity--as it is only one aspect of female led marriage. However I've noticed a large increase in our intimacy since I stopped relieving myself and putting my full focus on keeping my wife happy. I've been doing my best to keep her happy and do as much work as possible to help her out. She required a long foot rub in bed last night after which she asked me to massage her rear. I couldn't resist but to graduate from massage into kisses. A few minutes after I was then required to lick it she got excited enough to take out her toy and push me back down to sucking and licking her toes. This excites her hugely and she didn't take to long to climax. I was then told to resume licking her rear and pleasure myself simultaneously. After spilling myself onto her ass I then had to lick up every last drop. I love my wife.

My wife put on the most incredibly pair of stockings this evening right after she got up and I was still in bed. She thought I was asleep. I admitted to her tonight that when I saw her put them on I got so hard. It made me want to go straight over, kneel before her and pleasure myself at her feet. She seemed to like the idea. Maybe I'll get lucky some morning.

At All Times (http://sheisincharge.blogspot.com/) in response to a previous posting discussed the issue of being too submissive, which I think is an important issue. Let's face it. A husband's fantasy seems to be often far removed from what our wives actually want. My wife is happy with my submissiveness and knows it helps both of us to be happier. But she also needs me to be a strong, intelligent partner who can think for myself. There are moments where I am overcome with submissive feelings and want to drop to my knees and kiss her feet (outside the bedroom). Do I do it? No. There's only a certain amount she can handle. To prevent myself from being too submissive I'll often allow myself release (if I'm pretty sure that she's not going to have a chance to be pleasured in the next few days due to workload). It works but the obvious drawback is that I'm not attentive enough afterwards and slip back into my old bad habits. I may suggest a chastity device when ...

Following on from my previous post At All Times' useful comment included the following: You say "she doesn't ask for foot rubs or other activities like this which enforce the dynamic", so does that mean she isn't really into this lifestyle, but then go on to say, "it's my own fault for not making a greater effort or have energy when I get home and be able to pay more attention to her.". The question is, who is motivating who, and therefore, are you truly in a wife led marriage. Technically, if it is a wife led marriage, then she should be leading, demanding and expecting your attention and commitment, and you should be submitting and fulfilling her needs and desires. On our very first time ever in bed, shortly after we met, she whispered during a moment of intimacy "I'm going to make you my loveslave". I knew right away we'd be sexually compatible. Getting to acknowledged FLR took almost two years. First it was only during intimate ...

I realize I haven't been blogging here for quite some time. The reason is that my wife and I have had very little LFA in our lives over the last few months. Not a conscious decision, just the way things went when daily live gets too overwhelming and we both get too busy tired. When I wanted to introduce my wife to LFA a few years ago the thought of it used to take over my mind, now that we can have it when we want to, it sometimes gets forgotten about. When I come home late from work very tired (and admittedly occasionally grumpy) she doesn't ask for foot rubs or other activities like this which enforce the dynamic. I'm often too tired to be even motivated for it. So really it's my own fault for not making a greater effort ot have energy when I get home and be able to pay more attention to her. Look....this isn't as sexy a blog post as some of the previous ones I've written......but it's real life and I think it's important to keep blogs like this real....

It was our anniversary recently and I hadn't prepared a single thing, I had been overwhelmed with work and coming home very tired. With our two babies we hardly had a moment to be intimate over the last few weeks and we needed some time to ourselves. During the day of our anniversary I figured I better take her out for dinner and eventually decided on a restaurant in the best hotel in the area. Since we hadn't been intimate in a while I was eager to get some time alone with her. I booked a room at the hotel that we'd be passing as we left the restaurant. Before I came home to bring her out I went to the hotel, checked in and collected my key. I couldn't wait to get her up there. All through dinner I was 1/2 nervous, 1/2 excited and couldn't stop thinking about what we were going to do afterwards. I was careful not to order to much food and hoped she wouldn't eat too much so we wouldn't feel full and bloated afterwards. Thankfully dinner didn't take too l...

Sorry about the delay in posting. I've been very busy with work and been travelling quite a lot. LFR sometimes get pushed aside by everyday life. But that's fine, I don't want it to be this big serious all consuming thing that takes over my life. I just like to enjoy my time with my wife when I'm with her. To be honest, we can go through times when there's very little sexual happening and then it all happens together. For the last few months it has become normal for her to require me to eat her creampie. I get so excited about the thought of it before hand. However, although I get repulsed at the idea of it right after I come, I do enjoy getting right down there and cleaning her out. And I know she enjoys it to. You guys have similar experiences with creampie? What do your ladies think if it?

My new birdlocked device arrived a few days ago. Despite many attempts I can't put it on! I don't want to get into too much detail.... but I hang quite close to my body and simlpy cannot stretch my scrotum far enough to get to the second photograph on this link http://www.birdlocked.com/male_chastity_device/forum_chastity.asp I've tried at several times of the day both before and after ejaculation. I'm not sure what to do about it as I've never come across anyone mentioning it. Has anyone any experience of this problem?

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Sometimes we almost lead a vanilla life. It's not all intense femdom. With young kids, lack of sleep and too much work we can both end up drained. Thankfully she's still remembering to ask for her nightly foot rub in bed after which I'm allowed a little kiss.

In response to the last post At All Times asked: "I get this on occassions, but mostly in the bedroom, was there a time for you when it was the same for you, and what happened to change this, for your wife to take this outside the bedroom." Sure there was. I think initially my wife thought this was just a fad. This was reinforced when I went through periods of not being fully committed to FLR. I don't wear a device and sometimes if I came home really exhausted from work and just needed to rest for a while I wasn't so enthusiastic about helping out etc... Add two young kids and we'd then slip back into the old routine of 50/50 etc.... Then time would pass by where I realise I'm not happy without FLR, and she's not happy with me being grumpy and unhelpful around the house. I'd then broach the subject again, but most recently promised to myself not to pressure her and focus on serving her best I can . I am also careful not to make her feel like I exp...

What have we done that isn't vanilla? - sex almost always beings with me massaging/kissing her feet/body - she'll have me lick her ass while she uses a dildo - she'll have me kiss/lick her feet while she plays with her dildo. (she also likes me inside but I don't last long since she became boss. I just get far too excited!) - when she allows me to come she often likes me standing at the end of the bed with one leg up on the bed so she can see better She then needs me to come in my hands and lick it. - I'll wash her in the shower. Kneel down to scrub her legs, feet. Kiss her feet and pussy. I love looking up at her face while kneeling before her. - as she's blow drying her hair I'll massage her shoulders. Then rub lotion on her legs/feet, followed by being allowed to kiss her feet and very briefly her pussy/anus. - once at a hotel function we snook out to a (somewhat) private area downstairs. I knelt before her kissing her feet through her sandals and masturb...

Although I hated the idea of doing it at first, I now love a god shave. The act of doing it makes me feel incredibly submissive. My wife much prefers it as it helps remind me who's in charge.

I know guys are meant to love blow jobs but I've always preferred giving oral. I don't know what it is about it. Perhaps it's just the strong submissive element to it. I told my wife that I much rather give than receive oral sex. She hasn't give me a BJ in years but I lick her out every time we have sex now. It's one of my favourite things in life. I feel so good being down there between he thighs pleasuring her.

This scene was a major trigger for me in realising how much I loved femdom: Here he openly admits his foot fetish: Here are selected scenes from his movies where he focuses on feet:

I saw the CB-3000 Curve in a shop last week and almost bought it. However it looked so uncomfortable I couldn't imagine myself wearing it underneath my suit all day. From reading online reviews, many users claim that it's uncomfortable and can be painful. Has anyone here any experience with it?

Sometimes she'll have me go inside of her. Unfortunately by this time I'm so excited I come in about 2mins, to her dismay. I hate to see her so disappointed. At times I feel like I should get a strap on so I can satisfy her longer. Before acknowledging femdom when we had completely vanilla sex life I was able to last much longer. Now I get so excited so quickly I literally can't contain myself. Has anyone any advice on how to deal with this in a LFA relationship? Has anyone got a strap on to give their wives the pleasure of penetrative sex?

At the moment we're both pretty tired much of the time so sex is about once every 1-2 weeks :( Usually I offer her a foot massage followed by her asking for a full body massage. I start getting excited and kissing her feet. Me kissing her feet is a big turn on for her. Sometimes she'll ask me to lick her downstairs, sometimes she'll take out her dildo and demand I continue kissing/licking her feet while she brings herself to orgasm. She'll have me suck her toes and push her feet all over my face while she touches herself. This is soooo exciting for both of us. Sometimes she'll make me eat my own cum. As you know the though of this is really exciting before ejaculation but instantly diminishes once I cum. However, I get excited again by the her wanting me to do it.

Our LFA lifestyle had been going really well until we had our first kid. All of a sudden our peace and quiet was gone. She's a stay at home mom. I'm a busy executive with a lot of responsibility at work and often come home from the office exhausted and without any enthusiasm for LFA or helping around the house. Add a second kid 18 months later and you've got two exhausted people who aren't paying a whole lot of attention to their sex life anymore. LFA becomes an afterthought. That's pretty much where we're at right now. We both know she's in charge but it's not the LFA lifestyle we used to have. I know that more housework etc... would make a big difference to her and show her I'm serious about LFA outside of the bedroom, however when I come home so tired and start changing diapers I'm just not up to it. At the moment our sex life pretty much consist of .....

Cindy Crawford Howard: "Goodbye Cindy" (Kisses Hand) Cindy: "Aren't you going to kiss my foot?" Howard: "Oh you want me to kiss your foot? Here give me your foot, give me your foot!" Radio DJ Howard Stern Kari Wuhrer Question: "At what point in a relationship would you let a guy suck your toes?" Kuhrer: "First date. Are you kidding?" Kari Wuhrer-Maxim Online Chat Leelee Sobieski Interviewer: "What is your favorite scene in the film?" Sobieski: "I like when he (Klien) kisses my feet" Leelee Sobieski-API Interview, 'Here on Earth' Jessica Simpson "I even took off my shoes just for him. I think it's a cute fetish..." Jessica Simpson in "JoJo Wright show"

Jolie, Spears, Stone, Electra, Madonna etc......... love to have men kiss their feet. We don't have to feel weird anymore. Lots and lots of celebrities have admitted to having men kiss their feet. Short snippets pop up in the media here and there', but nobody sees them all together. Here's some I came across: Britney Spears Russell Gilbert show: Q: "What is your Favorite seduction?" A: "for a guy to kiss my feet..." (Don't believe me? Watch her say it:) http://www.giantessphotographer.com/goodies/Kiss_Britney_Spears_Feet.mpg Jenny McCarthy: "My boyfriend's a real foot man... he loves to look at mine. I walk around without a top on and he's looking at my $3 pedicure. Sometimes there's toe-sucking, it just depends what kind of mood we're in." from TV Guide Online, Fall '99 Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thorton in the July 5, 2001 "Rolling Stone" Thornton kisses her foot. "I have a foot thing," she says. ...

In a comment on my previous post Candace asked: "But how do you categorize this act as one of submission rather than one of intimacy and caring?" Submission can be intimate and caring. In fact, that's my favorite form of submission. I don't relate to many of the images or stories I read on women being in charge. To me, most femdom art is far too focused on pain--which I don't have much interest in (apart from a little spanking, and I don't even like that to get too painful) Although I've no problem with it, I'm not interested in leather, chains and whips etc.. I prefer to provide caring, intimate servitude to my wife. I'm happy to answer your question and keep sending them my way.

I love when my wife makes me give her a footrub before she even gets out of bed. When we have time (once or twice a week) I'll get in the shower with her. I drop straight to my knees and start washing one of her legs. I love looking up in her eyes as I do it. I then wash the other leg and she places a foot on my lap for me to wash it. She then has me wash her other foot. She'll make me wash her pubic area and rear, first with soap and after rinsing with water, I clean these areas with my tongue. She'll then have me wash her armpits and back before I towel her down when she gets out of the shower. As she sits at her dressing table blowdrying her hair, I start to massage body cream into her shoulders and back. I'll then drop to me knees and massage her legs and feet, while she's still doing her hair. When she gets up she usually allows me a brief kiss of her pubic area followed by a quick lick of her rear. I then thank her. Oh, how I love it!

I tried to forget about letting my wife being in charge again. I tried to suppress my feelings. We went back to the (bad)old 50/50. For a couple of weeks I managed to block it out of my mind. However, no matter how much I tried to ignore it, it just kept coming back. After a while I started offering foot rubs and lots of oral pleasure. It wasn't too long before we were living LFA again. My wise wife told me to stop trying to figure out why I love her being the boss and just accept it.

A few months after we started dating I couldn't resist during foreplay to kneel before her submissively and provide oral pleasure. Occasionally, I was cheeky enough to start kissing her feet. Over time I became more and more confident in offering footrubs and again I couldn't resist kissing her feet. Of course she was curious and I just had to tell her that it really turned me on and that I enjoyed doing it. I felt very guilty and embarassed about it, not to mention my fear that she would reject me for not being a "real man." I left www.aroundherfinger.com open on my computer a few times hoping she see it, have a browse through it and bring up the subject, but she never noticed it. I had to tell her there was a website I wanted to read out to her. We sat up in bed and I read aroundherfinger.com to her from my laptop. I could see her face starting to light up. We trialed it for a week and it went FANTASTIC! We were both so HAPPY. But then I got freaked out and started ...

It's so relieving to find information on Loving Female Authority on the internet. When I first became aware of my deep desire to submit to dominant women I struggled with feelings of guilt. I felt that there must be something wrong with me. Knowing that so many other people live this lifesytle helped me accept myself and feel better about myself. It also helped me pluck up the courage to introduce the concept to my wife. It's so good to feel at peace with this acceptance. More to follow on how I got my wife to accept LFA