thanks giving for the new normal

Although we usually pine for more more more, sometimes you've got to be thankful of what you have in life and in your relationship.

I've realised this recently be noticing the new normal and how comfortable my wife now is being in charge. Readers of some duration to this blog will observe that 6 months ago I wasn't posting and our wife led marriage was stuck in a lull. I didn't know if my wife was every really going to embrace it. I was often trying to think about what could get her more interested but she seemed to be overwhelmed by everyday life.

Now she has fully taken charge and really enjoys it.

This morning she told me to follow her to the toilet for my golden goodness. I took me place on my knees before her. She used to hold the glass as she sat on the toiled but she recently decided that I should hold it. I love the anticipation of getting down on my needs before her and watching her beautiful pussy become visible before me. I love to hold the glass as her watery goodness comes gushing down to quickly fill my glass. There were times where I drank it quickly to show how I had no hesitation doing it. This morning I took a mouthful and showed my appreciation by savouring it for a moment before finishing the glass. As I drink it she smiles down at me with wonder and amusement. She really enjoys it. I smile back lovingly into her eyes. I feel very connected and close to her.

For the first time she required that I was the one who had to dry her with toilet paper. She just sat back on the toilet as I used the tissue to dry her off.

She then stood in front of my pelvis thrust forward for a final "lick off" where I suck any last few drops directly from her.

I loved when she finished off by telling me to pull up her pants. I was in heaven.

I must point out that I never thought we'd be into this. It's just something she really enjoys (surprisingly) and from that I love it too.

a little accident

I had a little accident.

Normally when I use her hollow dildo I can't feel a thing and don't get any stimulation at all. However the other night I got so turned on before she had me strap it on that I struggled to fit into it. There was more internal friction than normal and I exploded soon after entering her with it. She told me she was very disappointed with me and penalised me to a full week without climax.

quick update

My wife and I have both been down with illness the last few weeks.
I've also be working harder and longer hours than ever. (if only the girls in the office new their serious business like manager is sitting at his desk in his formal suit with a nice pair of lace panties underneath!)

Sometimes I wonder about things like that. My wife and I don't consider ourselves too unusual. I wonder how many people I know who may secretly have unusual fetishes that most people would never ever guess.

Despite my wife being sick and having a period she has wanted sex a couple of times the last few weeks, much to my pleasant surprise.

She has also had me file and polish her toenails.

As soon as she stops taking any medication and gets back to a normal, healthy diet I'm sure I'll have to taste some more of her "golden goodness"
I love my wife.

New toy

I asked my wife if I could buy a new toy--a hollow dildo. The rationale being that I could pleasure her as long as she needed and be denied pleasure at the same time. She loved the idea and ordered it herself http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=6348

When I cam home from work yesterday she told me it had arrived. She seemed really tired from a busy day, not in the mood for anything and went off to bed early. I stayed downstairs to clean the kitchen and then tried it on. It fitted fine and was quite comfortable. I could only fit into it when flaccid.

Later on when getting into bed she asked me if I had tried it on. I told her I had and she asked me to see it. As soon as I had it on she said let's try it out. All her clothes were off in seconds and I was commanded to warm her up by licking her below. After about a minute she told me to give it to her.

It was a really strange sensation. I had the pleasure of being on top of her and thrusting into her but couldn't feel anything. I loved seeing the smile on her face and how much she was enjoying it. I let her know I couldn't feel a thing and she seemed to enjoy that even more and think it was funny. Recently when I go inside her I come within about 2 minutes. I'm usually so excited in the build up (kissing her feet, pussy etc...) that by the time I enter I'm ready to explode. This hollow dildo allowed me to give it to her as hard and fast as I liked without the usual fear of coming too soon.

After going pretty fast for a few minutes I could feel myself getting tired. I just loved hearing her sweet moans and being this intimate with her. She got quite close to climax and then told me to get her regular vibrating dildo and start kissing her feet. Shortly afterwards she lay on her tummy and and me lick her rear while she used her own normal dildo on her pussy. I licked and licked for a long time as the vibrator was pleasuring the area right below where I was licking. Unfortunately her sweet moans ended, she climaxed and I had to stop licking. She allowed me about 10 seconds of pleasuring myself while licking her feet before I had to stay frustrated and cuddle up in bed beside her.

Unexpected behaviour from my wife

When my wife first got the idea of having me drink her pee I thought it would be something we'd try once or twice and then get bored of it. What surprised me is how much she seems to be enjoying it. There are two ways she has me do it.

She told me to leave a glass in the bathroom for her to use. Every other day she calls me into the toilet right after she has emptied herself. She points to a full glass on this sink which I take in my hand and drop to my knees before her, as she remains on the toilet. Looking into her eyes I drink every last drop as she sits there smiling/grinning at me. I did NOT expect her to like it this much. The thrill for me is that she enjoys it so much. It is a real turn on.

Sometimes she slides open the shower door and tells me to get on my knees (both of us naked). I then have to cup it in my hands and drink it up. To make sure I drink it all she'll hold back the stream in between my handfuls. She has pee'd directly into my mouth but she prefers me to cup it in my hand and drink from my cupped hands. It's easier for her to see.

Will we get bored of this? Will it go on for decades? I've no idea. All I know is that we've both been doing it and enjoying it a lot more than I expected us to.

Does the husband need acknowledgement or should he submit 100%

Below is a comment I left for whatevershesays http://shestheboss.blogspot.com/ on his post "Interesting Comments"
I thought it was worth posting here:

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Dear whatevershesays,

I agree fully with you. I'm not convinced that the first comment is not just fantasy material. However, even if it is 100% true, and works well for the lady (you don't usually see ladies write like that), it doesn't mean it works well for your and anybody else.

Your point about some sort acknowledgement from your wife is valid in my opinion. Although there may be husbands happy with no acknowledgement I haven't come across believable examples.

A relationship is a two way thing. If I don't get any acknowledgement I get less joy from my submission. Yes you can argue that it isn't pure submission if you "require" something from your wife, but hey, that's just how I've noticed things work with me. Maybe I'll change and be happy without her acknowledging her dominance but I seriously doubt it.

Wife led marriage is a very very beneficial set up for the wife. (I sometimes fantasise to myself that I'm my wife and can order me about at whim, or look down to see me worshipping my feet) In my opinion if something is very important to the husband, his wife should at least make an effort to learn a little more about it. Her relationship with her husband determines more than most other things in life her state of mind and happiness. If her husband has a deep underlying frustration it would probably affect the relationship. If the husband is getting his (minimal) minimal needs met he is likely to be happier and therefore in a better mood which rubs off on his wife. I don't personally subscribe to the notion that that the husband wants means nothing.

I'd struggle to go more than a week without any playful acknowledgement from my wife about her being the dominant partner. Just yesterday she left a glass of pee for me to drink when she finished in the toilet in the morning. Before I left for work I asked her if her feet needed kissing. Standing up, she took her right foot from her sandal and held it forward. I dropped to my knees and kissed it for about 10 seconds. I went off to work happy and satisfied.

That's just my feeling on it and I'm sure others may see it differently.

Mother in law comments

My mother in law has been visiting for the last two weeks.

This is the first time she's seen me be extra helpful to my wife as or FLR is now more obvious. As my wife's sitting by her computer I'll kneel beside her chair and ask her what else she wants help with. I've been helping my wife a lot

On this visit my mother in law keeps commenting privately to my wife about what a good husband I now am. She said to her yesterday:

"He's such a good husband to you. He comes home from work tired and you boss him about all evening."

My wife had a twinkle in her eye telling me this.