I'll freely admit that my relationship may not be as it comes across in this blog. It's not that I ever write anything untrue here (I never have.) It's just the fact that it's usually only includes the more interesting parts.
When a movie is being produced, a lot of footage has to be shot before it is edited down to only the most exciting and relevant segments. No one wants to watch a 15hr borefest.
I've noticed that I sometimes go weeks without a single post. This can be because I'm too busy with daily life or that the FLR aspect of our relationship has sagged a little. I usually only include the juicy news.
To a certain extent it comes and goes. However there is now a level of understanding which never goes away. For years I worked on getting more wife more and more into it. We played lots of bedroom games and had lots of fun. There were a couple of pivotal moments.
- I would have discussed with her how I like to please her etc.... and enjoy her being in charge. She responded fairly positively.
- another pivotal moment was when I ordered "Around Her Finger" and read it to her over a couple of evenings in bed. We put FLR on trial and she loved it. We'd live an FLR life for a while and then life would get to busy and it would soon fall by the wayside. We spent 3-4 years in stage of on again, relaxed the FLR again.
- the biggest pivotal moment was when she joined she-makes-the-rules.com and read about other real women in this lifestyle. It became more "normal" and acceptable. Her imagination was sparked by what other women were doing and I almost worried that I had unleashed a monster.
It made me realise that it was ME who was actually controlling much of this. When she really took control and started pro actively looking to take charge I felt a mixture of excitement and to be honest a little fear--which I was surprised to notice.
I'm now content in our FLR in that we've reached a point of no return and I don't feel like I need to convince her any more. I just need to love and take care of her.