Monday, March 29, 2010

Stages of our FLR

I'll freely admit that my relationship may not be as it comes across in this blog. It's not that I ever write anything untrue here (I never have.) It's just the fact that it's usually only includes the more interesting parts.

When a movie is being produced, a lot of footage has to be shot before it is edited down to only the most exciting and relevant segments. No one wants to watch a 15hr borefest.

I've noticed that I sometimes go weeks without a single post. This can be because I'm too busy with daily life or that the FLR aspect of our relationship has sagged a little. I usually only include the juicy news.

To a certain extent it comes and goes. However there is now a level of understanding which never goes away. For years I worked on getting more wife more and more into it. We played lots of bedroom games and had lots of fun. There were a couple of pivotal moments.

- I would have discussed with her how I like to please her etc.... and enjoy her being in charge. She responded fairly positively.

- another pivotal moment was when I ordered "Around Her Finger" and read it to her over a couple of evenings in bed. We put FLR on trial and she loved it. We'd live an FLR life for a while and then life would get to busy and it would soon fall by the wayside. We spent 3-4 years in stage of on again, relaxed the FLR again.

- the biggest pivotal moment was when she joined and read about other real women in this lifestyle. It became more "normal" and acceptable. Her imagination was sparked by what other women were doing and I almost worried that I had unleashed a monster.

It made me realise that it was ME who was actually controlling much of this. When she really took control and started pro actively looking to take charge I felt a mixture of excitement and to be honest a little fear--which I was surprised to notice.

I'm now content in our FLR in that we've reached a point of no return and I don't feel like I need to convince her any more. I just need to love and take care of her.


  1. I just discovered your blog, and after reading the previous 4 or 5 posts, I'd say your wife seems fully in charge. As for you possibly unleashing a monster, well isn't that what you really wanted? Would you prefer that she hadn't sat on your face, or made you polish and paint her toenails, or not forced you to accept her car color choice, etc.? Hardly. SO get rid of that little bit of fear and enjoy the ride - you're a lucky man.

    1. As a new 24/7 sub in a developing FLR I understand both Lady Grey and Adore His Wife on this. Of course we want the outcome of acts such as having our face sat on, being told to paint toe nails, etc. Sometimes as subs we just dont ever know when its going to really happen. Of course it must be on her terms, but when this lifestyle is forming sometimes you feel like she will never dominate you like you want to be dominated, and the next minute you are being dominated more than you ever imagined she could. As a sub though, I have learned not to try to direct things, but you just never know what to expect.

  2. Fear of the unknown, but it's a delicious fear, isn't it!

    As Lady Grey said, you are a lucky man.

  3. Thank you for this... I'm trying to get Wife a bit more into this, and you're helping with your writing. I have my concerns about where it goes, but am so darn woodified by this (and our play sessions) that I want to go further!

  4. Hello,

    I met your blog and enjoying your thoughts and ideas / opinions.
    It's great to interact with blogs as are people from other cultures and whose minds are open and free.

    My Master and I experienced a relationship of D / SM is also, and we're already there 3 ½ years together and a happy complicity.

    I'll be closely following it and following your blog, ok?

    If they wish to visit us, are always welcome.

    Sorry if my English is not the best ...

    Tender kisses,